<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss version="2.0"><channel><title>asking for a friend</title><description>Clear, caring sexual health information without the taboo.</description><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/</link><item><title>Is spit a good lubricant?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/is-spit-a-good-lubricant/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/is-spit-a-good-lubricant/</guid><description>Spit is often used when lubricant is not around. What happens as it dries, and which alternatives last longer.</description></item><item><title>When should a couple seek a clinician or sex therapist for a persistent sex problem?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-problem-help/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-problem-help/</guid><description>Seek support for persistent pain, distress, sexual-function changes, trauma concerns, or conflict. You do not need to solve it alone.</description></item><item><title>Comfortable oral sex positions: support, communication, and pauses</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/comfortable-oral-sex-positions/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/comfortable-oral-sex-positions/</guid><description>Neck and torso support, and how to move away, when oral sex is the practice.</description></item><item><title>Sex positions for a small penis: friction, angle, and staying in</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-small-penis/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-small-penis/</guid><description>Which positions can increase friction, reduce the penis slipping out, and keep hands part of the encounter.</description></item><item><title>Which sex positions can make clitoral stimulation easier during penetration?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-clitoral-stimulation/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-clitoral-stimulation/</guid><description>How stimulation can reach the clitoris during penetration: pelvic friction, a hand, a pillow, or a change of angle.</description></item><item><title>Sex positions for a height difference: adjust distance, not tiptoe</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-height-difference/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-height-difference/</guid><description>How to match pelvis height with the edge, bent knees, or who sits, without standing on tiptoe.</description></item><item><title>How can menopause affect a couple’s sex life beyond vaginal dryness or pain?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/menopause-sex-life/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/menopause-sex-life/</guid><description>Menopause can affect sleep, desire, comfort, mood, and confidence. A couple can talk openly and seek personalised clinical care.</description></item><item><title>Which sex positions allow more eye contact and closeness?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-eye-contact/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-eye-contact/</guid><description>Distance between faces, whether you can kiss, and which arrangements keep them close.</description></item><item><title>How can we talk when medication seems to affect one partner’s sex drive?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/medication-sex-drive/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/medication-sex-drive/</guid><description>Some medicines can affect desire or sexual response. Talk with care and encourage prescriber advice without changing medication alone.</description></item><item><title>Which sex positions allow you to adjust pace and depth?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-rhythm-depth-control/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-rhythm-depth-control/</guid><description>Who sets pace and depth in each arrangement, and what to do if it hurts.</description></item><item><title>How can we adapt intimacy after surgery when a clinician says sex is safe again?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-after-surgery/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-after-surgery/</guid><description>Even after clinical clearance, recovery can be physical and emotional. Return to intimacy at a pace that feels comfortable to both people.</description></item><item><title>Sex positions for beginners: how to choose without pressure or acrobatics</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-beginners/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-beginners/</guid><description>Positions that are easy to change, with supported weight, plus options that do not rely on penetration.</description></item><item><title>How can a couple stay close when fatigue from a long-term condition is high?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-chronic-fatigue/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-chronic-fatigue/</guid><description>Fatigue can leave little energy for sex or social life. Build closeness around pacing, communication, and what is actually possible.</description></item><item><title>Sex positions on the sofa: comfortable ideas to explore outside the bed</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-sofa/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-sofa/</guid><description>Arrangements that use the edge, the backrest, and the floor. The furniture must be stable.</description></item><item><title>How can we stay intimate when chronic pain makes sex difficult?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-chronic-pain/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-chronic-pain/</guid><description>Chronic pain can change sex and intimacy. A couple can communicate, adapt, and seek individual clinical support without pressure.</description></item><item><title>How can you use pillows to explore sex positions with more comfort?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-pillows/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-pillows/</guid><description>Where the pillow goes (pelvis, knees, lower back, nape) and what to avoid: the face.</description></item><item><title>How can we stay intimate when penetration is temporarily uncomfortable?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-painful-penetration/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-painful-penetration/</guid><description>You can pause penetration without pausing connection. Choose no-pressure intimacy and seek care for frequent or severe pain.</description></item><item><title>Which sex positions require less effort? Ideas to explore without rushing</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-less-effort/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-positions-less-effort/</guid><description>Support on the mattress, side‑lying, and at the edge. If anyone is planking, this is not the post.</description></item><item><title>How can I suggest using lube if my partner thinks it means I am not attracted to them?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/suggest-lube/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/suggest-lube/</guid><description>Using lubricant is about comfort and preference, not proof of attraction. Talk about it in a way that protects both people’s feelings.</description></item><item><title>Why does my mind wander during sex with my partner, and what can help?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/mind-wanders-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/mind-wanders-sex/</guid><description>Distraction during sex is common. Notice what is pulling your attention away, take pressure off, and seek support for persistent distress.</description></item><item><title>Does alcohol make it harder to feel aroused or orgasm, and how should couples talk about it?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/alcohol-arousal-orgasm/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/alcohol-arousal-orgasm/</guid><description>Alcohol can affect sexual response and consent. Talk openly, avoid assumptions, and never rely on intoxication as a route to sex.</description></item><item><title>How can we talk about body changes without making sex feel pressured?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/body-changes-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/body-changes-sex/</guid><description>Bodies change with age, illness, pregnancy, recovery, and life. Talk about comfort and desire without making reassurance a demand for sex.</description></item><item><title>What can I say when my partner loses an erection and feels embarrassed?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/erection-embarrassment/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/erection-embarrassment/</guid><description>An erection can change for many reasons. Respond with calm reassurance, no pressure, and support for persistent concerns.</description></item><item><title>How can we stop treating orgasm or an erection as the measure of successful sex?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/orgasm-erection-success/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/orgasm-erection-success/</guid><description>Sex is not a test of orgasm or erection. Build a broader definition of success around consent, comfort, pleasure, and connection.</description></item><item><title>Why do I lose arousal when I start worrying about pleasing my partner?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/lose-arousal-worry/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/lose-arousal-worry/</guid><description>Worry can pull attention away from arousal. Learn how pressure affects sex and when a clinician or therapist can help.</description></item><item><title>How can I support a partner with sexual performance anxiety?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/performance-anxiety-partner/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/performance-anxiety-partner/</guid><description>Support a partner’s performance anxiety with reassurance, communication, and care, not pressure to prove anything in bed.</description></item><item><title>How can I feel less self-conscious during sex with my partner?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/self-conscious-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/self-conscious-sex/</guid><description>Body-image worries can pull you out of the moment. Try compassionate communication and seek support if anxiety is taking over.</description></item><item><title>How can we talk after a sexual experience felt disappointing?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/talk-after-disappointing-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/talk-after-disappointing-sex/</guid><description>A kind conversation after disappointing sex can build trust. Focus on feelings and future preferences, not blame or a post-match review.</description></item><item><title>How can we make sex feel less repetitive without trying things we do not want?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/less-repetitive-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/less-repetitive-sex/</guid><description>Novelty is optional. Build variety through conversation, attention, and consent, without treating either partner’s limits as a problem.</description></item><item><title>What does it mean if I feel emotionally close to my partner but not physically aroused?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/emotionally-close-not-aroused/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/emotionally-close-not-aroused/</guid><description>Emotional closeness and arousal do not always move together. Learn common influences and when individual support can help.</description></item><item><title>How can I ask for more kissing or touch without making my partner feel inadequate?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-more-touch/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-more-touch/</guid><description>Ask for more of what you enjoy with positive, specific language that invites your partner into a shared conversation.</description></item><item><title>How can we make foreplay feel less rushed in a long-term relationship?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/less-rushed-foreplay/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/less-rushed-foreplay/</guid><description>Slow down without following a script. Build time, feedback, and room to change your minds into intimacy.</description></item><item><title>Can we have a satisfying sex life if penetration is not enjoyable?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-without-penetration/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-without-penetration/</guid><description>Yes. A satisfying sex life does not require penetration. Choose forms of intimacy that are pleasurable, consensual, and comfortable.</description></item><item><title>How do we talk about clitoral stimulation when my partner focuses only on penetration?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/clitoral-stimulation-talk/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/clitoral-stimulation-talk/</guid><description>Penetration is not the only route to pleasure. Learn how to ask for the stimulation you enjoy without blame or assumptions.</description></item><item><title>How can we stay connected if one of us orgasms before the other?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/stay-connected-orgasm/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/stay-connected-orgasm/</guid><description>Different timing is normal. Stay connected by checking in, respecting each person’s limits, and choosing what feels good next.</description></item><item><title>Why does my partner take longer to orgasm than I do, and how can we talk about it?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/partner-orgasm-timing/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/partner-orgasm-timing/</guid><description>People vary widely in how and whether they orgasm. Talk about pace and pleasure without comparison, pressure, or a stopwatch.</description></item><item><title>How can I help my partner orgasm without making them feel pressured?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/help-partner-orgasm/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/help-partner-orgasm/</guid><description>Focus on comfort, communication, and shared pleasure rather than making orgasm a test of whether sex was successful.</description></item><item><title>How can we reconnect after an argument without using sex to avoid the problem?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/reconnect-after-argument/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/reconnect-after-argument/</guid><description>Sex after an argument can be wanted, but it should not replace repair. Reconnect only when both people feel heard and free to choose.</description></item><item><title>What can we do when one partner wants affection but not sex?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/affection-not-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/affection-not-sex/</guid><description>Affection and sex are separate choices. Learn how to negotiate touch and closeness without making either partner feel trapped.</description></item><item><title>How can new parents reconnect sexually when they are both exhausted?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-after-baby-exhaustion/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-after-baby-exhaustion/</guid><description>After a baby, intimacy can change. Reconnect at your own pace, without treating sex as a recovery milestone or a duty.</description></item><item><title>Why do I avoid sex even though I love my partner?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/avoid-sex-partner/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/avoid-sex-partner/</guid><description>Avoiding sex does not prove a lack of love. Many physical, emotional, and relationship factors can affect what feels possible.</description></item><item><title>Can resentment or unequal household work affect sexual desire in a relationship?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/resentment-sexual-desire/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/resentment-sexual-desire/</guid><description>Relationship strain can affect desire for some people. Talk about fairness and care without making sex the reward for chores.</description></item><item><title>How can we stay close when stress has lowered one partner’s sex drive?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/stress-low-sex-drive/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/stress-low-sex-drive/</guid><description>Stress can affect desire without changing how much someone cares. Stay close through compassion, boundaries, and practical support.</description></item><item><title>How can couples protect intimacy when work schedules never match?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-work-schedules/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-work-schedules/</guid><description>Mismatched shifts can make connection hard. Use honest check-ins and small moments of closeness without turning them into a duty.</description></item><item><title>How can we plan sex without it feeling forced in a long-term relationship?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/plan-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/plan-sex/</guid><description>Planning can protect time for intimacy, but it should never create an obligation. Make the plan flexible and pressure-free.</description></item><item><title>How can we reconnect sexually after a long dry spell without putting pressure on each other?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-after-dry-spell/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sex-after-dry-spell/</guid><description>A long gap in sex is common. Reconnect through honesty, safety, and small mutually wanted steps, not a deadline.</description></item><item><title>Why do I only feel sexual desire after we start being intimate?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/responsive-sexual-desire/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/responsive-sexual-desire/</guid><description>Some people feel desire after closeness or touch has started. Learn about responsive desire and when to seek support.</description></item><item><title>How can new partners talk about sexual boundaries before the first time?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/new-partners-boundaries/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/new-partners-boundaries/</guid><description>A calm conversation about boundaries, condoms, testing, and consent can help new partners make informed choices together.</description></item><item><title>How do we define intimacy when penetration is not part of our sex life?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-without-penetration/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/intimacy-without-penetration/</guid><description>Penetration is not required for intimacy or a satisfying sex life. Find a shared definition that respects both people’s comfort.</description></item><item><title>What should I say when my partner thinks I do not find them attractive because I do not want sex?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/rejected-no-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/rejected-no-sex/</guid><description>A lack of desire in one moment is not a verdict on a partner’s attractiveness. Learn how to reassure without creating pressure.</description></item><item><title>What can I say if I want my partner to stop something during sex?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-to-stop/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-to-stop/</guid><description>You can stop or change sexual activity at any time. Here are direct words to use and what a respectful response looks like.</description></item><item><title>How should we talk about a new sexual activity before trying it?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/talk-new-sex-activity/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/talk-new-sex-activity/</guid><description>A consent-first conversation can make trying something new feel safer, clearer, and more enjoyable for everyone involved.</description></item><item><title>How can I say no to sex while still showing my partner affection?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/say-no-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/say-no-sex/</guid><description>Saying no to sex is not the same as rejecting a partner. Here is how to set a boundary and stay connected on your terms.</description></item><item><title>How do we check in about consent during sex without making it awkward?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/consent-during-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/consent-during-sex/</guid><description>Consent check-ins can be warm and ordinary. Learn how to make room for a clear yes, a pause, or a change of mind.</description></item><item><title>How can I ask my partner to slow down during sex without hurting their feelings?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-slow-down/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/ask-slow-down/</guid><description>You can ask to slow down, change course, or stop at any point. Here are clear words that protect comfort and consent.</description></item><item><title>How do we talk about different sex drives without blaming each other?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/different-sex-drives/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/different-sex-drives/</guid><description>Different levels of desire are common. Here is how to discuss them without pressure, labels, or keeping score.</description></item><item><title>How can I tell my partner what feels good during sex without sounding critical?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/tell-what-feels-good/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/tell-what-feels-good/</guid><description>A kind, practical way to share what feels good, give feedback in the moment, and keep sex collaborative.</description></item><item><title>What should I tell a sexual-health clinic before an STI test?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sexual-health-clinic/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/sexual-health-clinic/</guid><description>A practical, non-judgemental checklist of details that help a sexual-health clinic choose the right tests.</description></item><item><title>Can hormonal birth control cause vaginal dryness?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/birth-control-dryness/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/birth-control-dryness/</guid><description>How hormonal contraception may affect comfort for some people and how to get individual contraception advice.</description></item><item><title>Can antidepressants make it harder to orgasm?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/antidepressants-harder-to-orgasm/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/antidepressants-harder-to-orgasm/</guid><description>Why some antidepressants can affect orgasm and desire, and how to raise it safely with your prescriber.</description></item><item><title>Does wearing two condoms make sex safer?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/two-condoms/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/two-condoms/</guid><description>Why doubling up on external condoms increases friction and what to do instead.</description></item><item><title>Can lubricant reduce condom breakage?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/lube-condom-breakage/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/lube-condom-breakage/</guid><description>How compatible lube can reduce friction and why the condom material and product label still matter.</description></item><item><title>Can you use coconut oil with latex condoms?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/coconut-oil-condoms/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/coconut-oil-condoms/</guid><description>Why coconut oil and other oils are not compatible with latex condoms, plus safer lubricant choices.</description></item><item><title>How do I know if a condom is the right size?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/condom-size/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/condom-size/</guid><description>Comfort and fit signs to look for, why condom labels differ, and how to choose safely.</description></item><item><title>Can pelvic-floor tension cause pain during sex?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/pelvic-floor-pain/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/pelvic-floor-pain/</guid><description>How tense pelvic-floor muscles can contribute to sexual pain and how to seek individual support.</description></item><item><title>Why does my penis burn after sex but not when I pee?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/penis-burning-after-sex/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/penis-burning-after-sex/</guid><description>Possible causes of penile burning after sex, why symptoms cannot diagnose the cause, and when to get checked.</description></item><item><title>Why am I spotting after sex while on the pill?</title><link>https://www.askingforafriend.fyi/spotting-after-sex-pill/</link><guid 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